The Best Sex Shops

I am a huge fan of Edenfantasys.com. Pretty much the only complaint I have about this sex-positive site is that they don't spell their name "Edenfantasies.com."

Eden consistently has the best prices and the most information about their products. Their highly functional website will give you a wealth of information about anything they sell, and most products have several ratings and a couple of user reviews too that will help you make informed consumer decisions. It's well-designed and easy to use. You can create wishlists and ask to be alerted when something that's out of stock becomes available. If you create a user profile, you can also sign up to receive a free toy in exchange for a thoughtful review of it. There's also a wonderful sex-positive community that has grown up around Eden and seems to be growing every day.

When I buy anything online, and especially sex toys, I want a wealth of specific information about the material, size, composition etc. It's amazing how many sites do not give sufficient information about the products they sell. Even Babeland--one of the best sex-positive sex shops IRL and online--does not have as much information about their products as Eden. They also don't have the thousands of products Eden does. While Babeland sells only high-end sex toys, Eden sells both low- and middle-end toys in addition to stocking the widest array of luxury toys on the market. And, when it comes to stuff they both sell, Eden's prices are substantially lower. I love visiting Babeland stores IRL, especially because they tend to have great staff and allow you to touch and turn on anything they sell. But I usually go back to Eden to make purchases.

Another site with great prices is the California-based Blowfish. They have some truly unique products that you can't find elsewhere and pretty good prices, but their website is a nightmare to navigate, and their products don't reach me as fast as Eden's.

A great luxury site to browse is Coco de Mer. They have a great deal of very high-end sex accessories, almost all of which are out of my price range. But I love browsing, and I can't wait until I'm in California or London again so that I can visit one of their boutiques IRL.

On Jouissance

What is jouissance? It's a French word that describes the pleasure we are always seeking. A pleasures that blurs the boundaries between itself and pain, that annihilates us in the best way possible. It describes the pleasure that undoes us, that loosens the boundaries of our Self.

Unfortunately, most people are introduced to this word in the classroom, instead of in the bedroom. Still, it must mean something that the pinnacle of high theory always returns us to the basest sensations of sex.